Discipline...

This word has become a term of the past. Discipline is now a way of life that we try to avoid. Rather at home, school, daycare or even out in public; our children are not being discipline and lead to the proper ways of structure in everyday life. They all are handed over this improper way of thinking, that everything is free. Alternatively, that you do not have to work for what you want. Just sit about and relax and that someone will hand it to you. Then that someone comes, willingly and easily handing over what that child has not worked for. A lesson that that child has not learned with the process of receiving. We as parents are overwhelmed with the responsibility of killing ourselves to better our children or should I say to give them what we feel we did not have. So in reality we are stepping back with giving in, not disciplining, not wanting to see them unhappy or trying to blankly keep up with the Jones all to say that “your children have it.” In the result, our children have no structure; they are weak to sacrifices, depressed in their minds and unable to withstand the storms of life. They crowd in their problems because they were never giving the opportunity to solve them on their own, or we as parents find ways to clean up their messes instead of standing back and giving them the ability to figure it out and if all else fails, we are here to support. Then that one day comes and we are gone, because we all are just passing through and now they are helpless. No one is going to baby a man, or strengthen a woman like his or her parents. So instead of making more generations of unwilling, motivate less men and women we need to step back, discipline our children. Who cares what the next person has to say. Are they raising your child? Will your child’s life be a reflection of them? Did they birth your child? Will they be near when problems occur? Therefore, they cannot speak on your children behalf. We are not their friends, nor is that a job title we should be fighting for. We are their leaders and guilders, their role models and providers. We have full control to the structure of who they will be when our job is near completion. We need to spend more time creating, nurturing, speaking and guiding our children from the ways of the world. We cannot throw them off due to our jobs. You can give a job twenty years of your life, they will let you go in a day without thinking twice, and in twenty years of blowing off your child, you lost so much from something that going to be there always. So why not place that much energy into a life, not a job that has no room to become a career. We need to start now at the best ages of learning (toddlers). Stop being scared of becoming your father or mother. I use to feel and say the same thing “I do not want to be like my mother.” Nevertheless, guess what I am who I am because of my parents rather good or bad; there was a lesson learned in the raising of me. It is time to go back to the granny days, where you would receive a smack in the mouth at any giving time. Where you would think twice to speak, to sit around adults as they are speaking. Priorities are changing and our children are failing, lets get it together…