A lot of folks now days are overly depressed; what for, life is so beautiful. Remember if your not liking your situation then make a change. The choice is yours...

Aging

I don’t know about you but I am enjoying the facts of aging. It enhances so much more then your number. Maturity is beyond standard; your words gain more loyalty. Your experience level has increase so you are able to enlighten the ones that follow. Just this bit has me excited about the years to come. So to all of the women who are going backwards with the years need to take the time to understand the cycle of life. Seriously, what was so wonderful about 25? If I recall it I was walking away from a horrible relationship, I was finally becoming the strong woman I knew I was. My relationships with those around me were becoming better in a respectable way. Anything before that wasn’t something to be proud of and anything that’s to come after that is something I will grow from or overcome in many ways. Surely I will embrace my aging and enjoy the wisdom that comes with it as well. I have no desire for going backwards when my future holds the keys to success which stands in front of me not behind me.

Don't get stuck in an unhappy place, make a move!

The key to life is to enjoy what ever it is your doing, regardless if you don't.  Don't allow something or someone to steal your joy...

The cause of being Unhappy

To me the cause of being unhappy is being at a place in life that you do not want to be. Although, you may need to be in such an area for the moment in time. Instead of taking that to consideration we get lost and stuck in a moment that was always meant to pass. So for those who do not know when it is time to change route and leave a moment in your past. It is time when you start to feel unhappy, when your views of a situation are allowing you to realize that what is going on around you is some BS, then you may want to be finding an exit door. There are no use nor will the loyalty become any stronger when you are in an unhappy place. We have to find out what is missing and feed our void that we are hungry for.

Being the Other Woman…

Being the other woman is a task of its on, many times women just fall into it. Not knowing that there is someone already in the picture. Unknowingly placing trust into an undeserving man, falling into a cycle yet unknown all in the name of love. Then there are other times in which being the other woman is a title well known. Persistently in search of men who are in a relationship. The facts to this are to keep them from wanting more. Giving them a reason to why they can not stay the night. Being able to have what you want without making a commitment to what you don’t. There are multiple reasons that come alone with this title but the one fact that stays the same. The other woman is not at all responsible for the men they encounter. A commitment was made between the two partners not the invited guest. So instead of hating or looking down at the other women, yet madly still in love with the issue. Individuals need to take a better perspective of their partners; in giving them what they are missing that made them look else where. Or walking away because cheating once could lead to cheating twice and such an individual is not worth the time. Just know we go through situations for a reason, so in some cases the other woman could just be the sign you need to make it to the man that was created for you. Take notice of your situations, you should not have to compete with any other women nor should you be mad when they catch hold to your problems: let him go.

Life is what you make it, so make it count!

Discipline...

This word has become a term of the past. Discipline is now a way of life that we try to avoid. Rather at home, school, daycare or even out in public; our children are not being discipline and lead to the proper ways of structure in everyday life. They all are handed over this improper way of thinking, that everything is free. Alternatively, that you do not have to work for what you want. Just sit about and relax and that someone will hand it to you. Then that someone comes, willingly and easily handing over what that child has not worked for. A lesson that that child has not learned with the process of receiving. We as parents are overwhelmed with the responsibility of killing ourselves to better our children or should I say to give them what we feel we did not have. So in reality we are stepping back with giving in, not disciplining, not wanting to see them unhappy or trying to blankly keep up with the Jones all to say that “your children have it.” In the result, our children have no structure; they are weak to sacrifices, depressed in their minds and unable to withstand the storms of life. They crowd in their problems because they were never giving the opportunity to solve them on their own, or we as parents find ways to clean up their messes instead of standing back and giving them the ability to figure it out and if all else fails, we are here to support. Then that one day comes and we are gone, because we all are just passing through and now they are helpless. No one is going to baby a man, or strengthen a woman like his or her parents. So instead of making more generations of unwilling, motivate less men and women we need to step back, discipline our children. Who cares what the next person has to say. Are they raising your child? Will your child’s life be a reflection of them? Did they birth your child? Will they be near when problems occur? Therefore, they cannot speak on your children behalf. We are not their friends, nor is that a job title we should be fighting for. We are their leaders and guilders, their role models and providers. We have full control to the structure of who they will be when our job is near completion. We need to spend more time creating, nurturing, speaking and guiding our children from the ways of the world. We cannot throw them off due to our jobs. You can give a job twenty years of your life, they will let you go in a day without thinking twice, and in twenty years of blowing off your child, you lost so much from something that going to be there always. So why not place that much energy into a life, not a job that has no room to become a career. We need to start now at the best ages of learning (toddlers). Stop being scared of becoming your father or mother. I use to feel and say the same thing “I do not want to be like my mother.” Nevertheless, guess what I am who I am because of my parents rather good or bad; there was a lesson learned in the raising of me. It is time to go back to the granny days, where you would receive a smack in the mouth at any giving time. Where you would think twice to speak, to sit around adults as they are speaking. Priorities are changing and our children are failing, lets get it together…

Make it Happen...

Trying something new to finish off the remainder of the year and this solely is a one person march, so hopefully folks want assume that it means more then what it does. On a mission and there is no more time left for playing. Success is giving to those who work for it.

Why does it have to be so hard?

Such proclamation can mean so much; why does it have to be so hard? I am speaking in a sense of life, people, our environments, situations, relationships, schools, jobs and point blankly just getting by in life. It would be so easy to be content if life’s situations could be serene, not to the extreme of a headache. If people in the work field could realize that thing are destine to happen but that does not mean that we should have to choose between our jobs or our families. If the ones we love words could be honest in all expect so that all secrets would be left behind. If individuals could allow their words to be their bonds. If the environments would help out in the raising of our trees, grass, clean ups and the children.

                What ever happen to being united? Why do we only choose to come together in tragedy? In tragedy we become one, we are a mountain full of lava and as a group we will melt anything trying to harm us. I think if we as human beings took such a measure at all times that it just may be easier for all to be happy. I hope in the years to come that we as a people will all come to the realization that we need to stick together. Enjoy the fruits of our labor and give everyone a reason to smile. Today try to put a smile on someone’s face, the littlest deed seems to have the biggest power.

When all else seems to fail in life and the point of breaking is staring  you in the eyes just remember this song and believe it as you sing it and if you can feel chills down your body then your singing it just right. This is my remedy when I feel that all else is failing and that there is not one person is my corner. Instead of allowing my situation to eat at me or drown me, or even rain on my life; I simply sing this to myself to enlighten the darkness around me…..

                My God is Awesome,

                  He can move mountains, Keep me in the valley, Hide me from the rain My God is Awesome,

                 Heals me when I'm broken, Strength where I've been weakened, forever   He will reign...

                My God is Awesome, Savior of the whole world, Giver of Salvation, By His stripes I am healed
                My God is Awesome, Today I am forgiven, His grace is why I'm living, Praise His Holy name

                My God is Awesome, He can move mountains, Keep me in the valley, Hide me from the rain
                My God is Awesome, Heals me when I'm broken, Strength where I've been weakened

SideLine Chicks just Don't know...

Why is it that a woman will sneak and sleep around with your man with no remorse to your emotions? Yet once you realize the situation and you decide to move on and the side line chick comes in to take you place you are suppose to show their relationship some type of respect. Now you are in a situation because children are involved so you guys all have to cross path but it’s funny to me that now the shoes are on the other foot and I am suppose to care about your feelings. Your emotions are supposed to mean something to me, yet you slept around with a man who was not yours. You played a part in the unraveling of a home and again I am supposed to show you some kind of respect. I am suppose to brush him off when he sneaks over for some late night sex or snack? Should I brush him off to keep the respect level of myself or should I enjoy the gay you call your man due to the fact that this was once you and you did not think once about my feelings or emotions or even have enough respect for yourself to say no. If more women knew their value we would have more better men in the world but since you ladies don’t, be prepared to lose them the same way you got them…

Moral Monday...

More than 350 people have been arrested since "Moral Monday" demonstrations started on April 29. 

I like to stay updated on world news, since for now we do have the right to know. So for those who do not know what is taking place in North Carolina, please take the time to look it up.

Disrespect

This is a term that sticks to me in every way, because this term can determine how someone views you. As well as how someone speaks upon you in a conversation with others. Disrespect can come in a variety a ways but at the top of the list is the way you speak to others. For years we have heard “respect your elders” and yes, this is true. But how far can us as humans respect someone including our elders when they are valiantly disrespecting us. When you become an adult you want to be treated as an adult. This means talk to me as if you have some sense, hear my side of the story your claiming and do this all with an inside voice.  I feel this term has to start at the home and be brought back to the job or where ever you may be off to next.  It bothers me deeply when I see an adult talking to another adult or maybe an adult older than them in the rudest way. Like they are a God and you are a bum and because they have a higher rank in a position they feel that they have a free range to disrespect. Can’t you get your point across in another way; so at the end of your statement that individual can still in some way like you? I would not dare to stand still as someone boldly disrespects me. Why would I, if you do not stand up for yourself then who will. Is it that individual are under the impression to allow everything to slide because you need your job? Or because they are older then you, meaning you cannot have a voice? The bigger picture is that you have control, control over your life control over your words and control over the surroundings you keep near. Your voice is as important as the next and I rather not kiss ass due to an insecurity that I may be at a loss of something. News flash, not having your own back has already brought you to a loss of self esteem. Do not allow something or one to get a pass all because you are afraid of losing something. If you lose it then it was never yours to keep in the first place. I pray that the adults as well as the upcoming ones will find their voices again and speak up to what they want, what they expect, and to the fact that they want be taking anymore shit from anyone. Omg, if the world only knew how each one of us plays an important part. It is not okay to be at a standstill in life; as in working at a job you hate, not speaking up to those who walk over you, not finding and fighting for what you want out of life. We only have this one moment and it’s up to us to fight through until our outcome is what we want it to be.

Stress...

One thing I cannot do anymore in my life is stress… I cannot stress about tomorrow because it’s not here. I cannot stress about yesterday because it passed. Why even stress about the day, when I know it will be over in a few hours and as always I will get through it, regardless to what the day may bring; I will get through it. It truly hurts my feelings for those who stress, worry about the days and lose hope for their tomorrow. If you only knew the truth about the word and the world, you would not dare too stress about the day or tomorrow. The Devil has control when you are stressing, it is a mental state and he wants you to think there is no way out and God wants you to believe that there is. Why is it so easy to believe the devil Vs God? Why do we prefer to have the negative over the good? Believing is a powerful method and we should know because we keep our problems alive; we are the air to the fire since we cannot think of a better outlet to change the event. Yet we have the skills to, we just need to skill it in order to get it. Believing means that there is no room for doubts because even a little piece of doubt is a problem. Claim what is yours and hold firm to it! Let your life be the first thing you take control of, you do not have to be a church body to be blessed, you do not have to change your friends. You just have to gain control of your mind and truly believe that you are in control of it all, then your prays will be pure and a inner change will occur as well as your surroundings. It may take a while to understand but I’ve been through it and I can speak on having full mind control of my life today, because “The way you think will determine your tomorrow.”  Thing are deeper then we know and the purpose of the world is to be tested. To see who can make it to the end, who can overcome the tricks and visions that the devil throws in front of us. Like I truly don’t understand why do we expect good 24/7? Seriously, look at a bad situation and ask yourself what lesson came from it? Start to notice how good the bad really is, receiving that extra strength and mental observance is a blessing. Building you up for what is to really come, making you strong enough to fight the world alone, not feeling like you need someone to stand with you. This is why everyone’s problem is different and they go though them alone. We have to be our own people and cannot look for comfort anywhere else. We were born alone for a reason; not to feel the need to lone for any other human kind. With taking all of this in from the past few years I know that I am where I need to be in life and in my darkest hours I notice the lesson first then I accept the problem. Regardless, this too shall pass. For me this is a topic I can speak on all day so I’ll stop here, just wanted to clear my mind but before I go please people practice mind control, don’t think negative to a negative situation, just find the good or over look it and know a change is going to come and keep moving forward.

Truth Is

If I thought about all the negative things people have said about me, I could sit down and cry; but instead I think of all the things that God says about me! So I stand with pride...

Gossip!

Gossip seems to be a way of life now days for some folks. It amazes me how individuals are so quick to speak on another’s life or situations but keep quite to their own issues. Why do people feel the need to poke at someone’s life, to claim the “If it was me” title like if it was truly you it would be any different. We as a human race cannot step outside of ourselves and take notice of what is happening in our own lives. Yet it is easy to criticize someone else’s life. It is easy to speak upon their stories with no comparison to their own. Resting assure we are all guilty of this, telling the next man’s story in our way of viewing it. But who is to tell that our viewing is even correct; especially if you are outside looking in, you will never get the story right because reading lips can only get you so far. On the other hand, if it’s being told to you, it is not being told for you to tell others. It is being told for advice, structure and help. Someone is taking notice of their situation and they want an opinion from an outside source. So who are you to take that trust and violate it all to have a conversation with the next? It is so sad to me that people still to this day don’t take notice to the facts; there aren’t too many real friends anymore. If this friend is talking about someone to you, mark my words that that friend is speaking to someone else towards you. It seems to be the way of the world; people are so worried about the wrong things and not noticing themselves walking down their own hill. I am one who observes, I like to take notice of the people I surround myself with because rather we like it or not in some way they reflect us. With all this being said, my circle is small. I probably have three friends that I call friends yet still I keep my eyes open. I don’t do too much with the family anymore, there was just too many faces on one individual, so let’s do the math; way too many problems.  Now days I just pay attention and advise the ones who are clueless to the situation in front of them. We have to live our life and keeping bad company doesn’t help. So to improve yourself you have to improve your surroundings. Let the talker do what they do best, talk. Just steer clear and you will know exactly who they are because they seem to always have a story to tell. I’ve learned a way around them, every time  someone starts telling me about so and so or what so and so got going on I simply say this to each remark “Oh, well they are grown and have to live and walk their own path, they’ll be alright.” And I leave it at just that, who am I to judge?

           Fight for what you want Or lose with what you got!!

 

                        Love yourself 1st Or nobody will!

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Control...

Today has been a long day, regardless to how beautiful it may have been. When you are missing someone it can change the mood of a beautiful sun. It can affect the light to a clear arising. Missing someone can stop the wind before its breeze makes it near your cheek. It can bring shades to your eyes and loneliness to your heart. Or is it just the feeling we choose to take because in life we all have choices rather big or small but we do have a choice. We have the choice to take the bad and to find a speck within it to bring ourselves to the light. We have the choice to accept the wrong and to dwell onto its appetite, which is never full. Many may not think that we have such choices but in reality we do. The choice is ours to make noting into something. The way we think is the way we live and if we cannot control our minds then we cannot mediate in our emotions which end up to not allowing ourselves to being able to control our feelings…

We are our own power, and although at times it feels good to soak in your pain. We have to as human beings accept the cards we have been dealt and play them to our best ability. Who knows, our next hand may be that pair we need to get to the next step. So clear your cards out of your hands and allow your deals to keep on coming until you get your pair.

Children

If I am not sure about anything in life I am certain of the love that I have for my children. Becoming a mother should had came with a guild book in my opinion, it could be so much easier if there was rules to follow, guidelines to help with certain dilemma. A table of content to allow us to know what chapter we have reached. As well as a glossary to give us a better understanding for certain words or phrases that are used within different chapters. Boy, if only it was that easy but since it isn’t we as mothers have to make it what it is. We as women have to share and give advice to one another.

                Our poor fist born they get the rockiness of our motherhood. We know not where to start or what is wrong from right. Yet within time we get it together. On another note, becoming a mother doesn’t mean that we have to let go of our womanhood, as the world has painted. Life doesn’t stop because we have children, it just alerts us to think twice with the moves we make. We as women are still allowed having “me time” whenever it is needed. This helps to regroup ourselves in full, to relax and think clearly. All mothers have their moments when we are feeling some type of way about their situations. In which some feel thing could have been different. Then we have to snap out of it! Life is life, love it because it’s ours and love whatever comes about within it. It is okay to feel like something else could have been better or to not want to be around at times. These are just a few of the feelings that ALL MOTHERS go through you are not alone and you are allowed these thoughts but as you step back into reality EMBRACE your situation, EXCEPT your life, LOVE your outcome and ENDURE whatever is needed to endure to make you a stronger woman; a better mother and a professional advisor to the next young ladies in your shoes.

Decision

The hardest thing in life has to be making decisions. Cause in reality you will never know which is right…

For what reason?

For what reason do we tolerate the bad? Why do we allow ourselves to become empty? Why do we stray away from what we desire out of life? Why do we make our lives a schedule instead of a freelance race to the finish line? Why don’t we do what we yarn to do? Why are there choices? Why do some people get a better shot at life then others? N why can’t they notice it? For what reasons have God placed us on this earth? Do we really think it’s to work a job we can’t stand? Not to be able to travel and see such a beautiful world because of a budget. For what reason, why can’t we seem to find the answers? Although knowing that we’re unhappy or unsure we continue on our days living out our schedule.  For those taking this the wrong way please listen closely. Not everyone is in a valuable place in their life, this is for those who are always second guessing themselves. For the ones who fill like something is missing within their lives. The ones who wake up and go to work EVERDAY, while whispering “Lord give me the strength” before walking in the doors. I feel those are the one who are missing their callings because they’re too busy working off of their schedule. Not noticing the time that they are missing and how their souls are crying out for a change. God has a place for us all; we have to make the decision to set aside that schedule and to begin to listen to our inner selves… This is the only way to reach happiness and start to enjoy our fulfillment in Life. We were not given this world to be unhappy but to explore and embrace it along with everyone in it. For what reason can’t EVERYONE be happy.

Been a while!

Forgive me, for it has been a while since I have written anything. Although I have plenty to say but I will allow the past to stay planted in the past while starting from the roots or should I say “Tree.”